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50 Essential Guides For Mighty Girls
in Middle School, High School, and Beyond

A Mighty Girl's top picks of guides for girls in middle & high school -- and their parents!

Parents of younger Mighty Girls looking for books about school can find recommendations in our first post in the series: Back-to-School Books About Mighty Girls’ Adventures at Elementary School.

Tweens and teens have a lot on their plates: more academic material to learn, increasingly complicated social relationships, busy extracurriculars, and more. On top of that, they have to adjust to their increasing independence and even start thinking about the career direction they'd like to take. Put it all together and it’s no wonder that tweens and teens report being stressed out by school!

Fortunately, there are some great books out there to help tweens, teens, and their parents to work through these stresses and make their middle school, high school, or college experience positive and empowering. In this blog post, we're showcasing our favorite guides for tween and teen Mighty Girls, tackling everything from standing up against bullying to building confidence to learning important skills like perseverance and self-direction. We even include some great resources to help your Mighty Girl learn about a wide variety of fascinating careers — maybe one will be the job of her dreams! And for parents, we include a selection of books to help you understand how your relationship dynamic will likely change as she goes from a girl to a grown woman, as well as what she's going through behind her school and bedroom doors.

These years may be a tumultuous time, but they're also an exciting one! We're hoping that these resources will help you and your girls get the most out of the tween and teen years.

And, to help your kids feel prepared for school -- whether they are just starting out or are heading back to middle or high school -- you can also find many encouraging books, as well as girl-empowering school supplies, in our Girl Empowerment Back to School Guide

Guides for Tweens and Teens

Tween and teen girls are faced with a bigger, more complicated, and more demanding school day than they ever experienced at elementary school. These books will help them figure out how to hand the new expectations and feel comfortable with their increasing independence.

Stand Up For Yourself and Your Friends

Stand Up For Yourself and Your Friends

Written by: Patti Kelley Criswell
Illustrated by: Angela Martini
Recommended Age: 7 - 12

Older girls need more complex techniques for handling relational aggression, from bossy friends to outright bullying. Stand Up For Yourself and Your Friends helps Mighty Girls differentiate friends who step over the line from deliberate bullying, provides anti-bullying strategies for both bullying victims and bystanders, and includes “what would you do?” scenarios to help girls figure out effective techniques — as well as when it’s appropriate to seek out adult help. With a few helpful tips in hand, she'll feel more confident when it's time to handle one of these conflicts.

What To Do When You Worry Too Much

A Kid's Guide To Overcoming Anxiety

What To Do When You Worry Too Much

A Kid's Guide To Overcoming Anxiety

Written by: Dawn Huebner, Ph.D.
Illustrated by: Bonnie Matthews
Recommended Age: 7 - 12

For anxious kids, learning techniques to manage their worries builds confidence! This interactive self-help book designed to guide kids and their parents through the cognitive-behavioral techniques most often used in the treatment of generalized anxiety. Parents of younger children can read it aloud and discuss the concepts with their little worrier, while older kids can use it independently to better understand and manage their fears. Engaging, encouraging, and easy to follow, this book educates, motivates, and empowers children to work towards change.

What To Do When Mistakes Make You Quake

A Kid's Guide to Accepting Imperfection

What To Do When Mistakes Make You Quake

A Kid's Guide to Accepting Imperfection

Recommended Age: 7 - 12

Everyone makes mistakes sometimes... but for some kids, the possibility is terrifying. Perfectionism can trap kids in their worries, and even discourage them from trying something new and challenging in case they don't measure up. And with self-critical thoughts raging, it's hard to build confidence. Fortunately, with this interactive book, kids can learn to use cognitive behavioral approaches to understand their worries, quiet critical thoughts, and cope with mistakes. Encouraging and empowering, this accessible guide will help kids learn to live with imperfection and motivate them to push their limits.

School RULES! Tips, Tricks, Shortcuts, and Secrets to Make You a Super Student

School RULES! Tips, Tricks, Shortcuts, and Secrets to Make You a Super Student

Written by: Emma MacLaren Henke
Illustrated by: Stacy Peterson
Recommended Age: 8 - 10

Tweens might not think of it this way, but going to school is their job — and like any job, there are tips and tricks that can make it easier and make you more productive! In this guide from the American Girl Library, you'll do quizzes, read advice from real girls, and find out how you can become the best student you can be. Additional volumes from this series focus on specific areas that tweens may find challenging, including School RULES! Writing, School RULES! Math, and School RULES! Projects.

A Smart Girl's Guide: Drama, Rumors, and Secrets

A Smart Girl's Guide: Drama, Rumors, and Secrets

Written by: Nancy Holyoke
Recommended Age: 8 - 12

Girls also need to learn how to prevent the drama that becomes more common in middle school from affecting their lives. In this book, girls will learn how jealousy, gossip, and cyberbullying can creep into the lives of tweens and teens — and how to avoid them and stay true to themselves. They'll also learn what separates regular talk from gossip, and how to handle difficult interactions over text or online. By learning how drama starts and how it gets worse, girls can find out what they can do to stop it from taking control of them and their friends.

Your Happiest You: The Care and Keeping of Your Mind and Spirit

Your Happiest You: The Care and Keeping of Your Mind and Spirit

Written by: Judy Woodburn
Illustrated by: Josee Masse
Recommended Age: 8 - 12

If you've read The Care and Keeping of You, you already know a lot about caring for your body — but your mind and spirit need care too! In this new book from the American Girl Library, you'll learn important skills for long-term happiness: how to focus on what really matters to you, how to bounce back after a setback, how to find calm inside, and how to connect with the people you love. It also shows how you can make your happiness "contagious." Friendly, accessible advice and stories from real girls just like you remind young readers that happiness doesn't just happen; it's something you can learn.

A Smart Girl's Guide: Worry

A Smart Girl's Guide: Worry

Recommended Age: 8 - 12

Everyone worries sometimes, but whether big or small, if worries start taking over your life, they're a problem! This book will help tweens take charge of their worries and learn strategies to help them manage anxiety and build confidence. Quizzes will help girls figure out what sorts of situations are most likely to spark her worries, while tried-and-true techniques for overcoming fears and calming emotions will give her strategies to use no matter what's bothering her. Plus, real-life stories about everything from big tests to conflicts with friends to major life changes like a move or divorce in the family help her learn what worked for girls just like her. This valuable addition to the American Girl Library belongs on every tween's bookshelf.

The Confidence Code for Girls
New!

Taking Risks, Messing Up, and Becoming Your Amazingly Imperfect, Totally Powerful Self

The Confidence Code for Girls
New!

Taking Risks, Messing Up, and Becoming Your Amazingly Imperfect, Totally Powerful Self

Recommended Age: 8 - 12

Many girls are consumed by self-doubt on the inside, especially during the tween and teen years — but if they can crack the confidence code, they can learn how to set worries aside and focus their energy on what's really important: confidently pursuing their dreams and embracing their authentic selves! In this book, Katty Kay and Claire Shipman, the authors of the best-selling The Confidence Code for adult women, draw on the latest research to help tweens understand how to short-circuit the thoughts that drain your confidence and hold you back. Illustrations throughout help draw girls into the book, while lists, quizzes, and stories from real-life girls help readers understand how to embrace risk (and failure), overcome anxieties, and be happy in their own skins.

A Smart Girl’s Guide: Middle School

A Smart Girl’s Guide: Middle School

Recommended Age: 9 - 12

Middle school means big changes: lockers, changing classes, and meeting a larger range of kids don’t seem like a big deal to an adult, but for your Mighty Girl, it’s a lot of change to handle all at once! On top of that, expectations in both her classes and her other activities are increasing, leaving many girls feeling overwhelmed and unsure of how to handle the additional demands. By teaching her what to expect and giving her strategies to handle these new challenges, this book will help her feel prepared. It's the perfect start to your new middle-schooler's library.

A Smart Girl’s Guide: Digital World

A Smart Girl’s Guide: Digital World

Written by: Carrie Anton
Illustrated by: Stevie Lewis
Recommended Age: 9 - 12

Tweens are often eager to get involved in all the fun of the digital world, from social media to texting to online gaming — and while there's plenty of fun to be had online, it's important for girls to know how to use their digital tools responsibility and how to keep themselves and their personal information safe. In this newly revised and updated book, girls learn hot tips, safety tricks, and more so that they can effectively use their cell phones, tablets, and computers. Fun quizzes and real-life stories from other girls will help your Mighty Girl strike the right balance so that they can enjoy the best parts of our digital, connected world.

A Smart Girl's Guide: Knowing What to Say

A Smart Girl's Guide: Knowing What to Say

Written by: Patti Kelley Criswell
Illustrated by: Angela Martini
Recommended Age: 9 - 12

A tween's complicated life is full of difficult conversations, from what to say to a friend who talks behind your back to how to ask your parents for a privilege they've previously denied. Fortunately, with a little guidance from the American Girl Library, she'll feel ready to take on any situation! In this updated edition, scripts and suggestions for over 200 situations, from consoling a grieving friend to standing up to a bully, give you tips and techniques to speak up appropriately and assertively. With a little help knowing what to say, she'll be ready to take on the challenges ahead of her with confidence!

A Smart Girl’s Guide: Staying Home Alone

A Smart Girl’s Guide: Staying Home Alone

Written by: Dottie Raymer
Illustrated by: Lauren Scheuer
Recommended Age: 9 - 12

For many girls, middle school means the end of after-school care and the beginning of staying home alone after school. This book gives your Mighty Girl important safety tips — including some basic first-aid information — as well as ideas for how to handle feeling bored while she’s alone. And since time at home after school may mean dealing with siblings without adults to intervene, there are even some suggestions for how to handle frustration with a brother or sister.

A Smart Girl’s Guide: Getting It Together

A Smart Girl’s Guide: Getting It Together

Written by: Erin Falligant
Illustrated by: Brenna Vaughan
Recommended Age: 9 - 12

With so much going on and so much to remember, tweens can feel overwhelmed — especially if they don't know how to organize their belongings or their time. This guide teaches girls to look at all aspects of their life, from their backpack to their bedroom to their schedule, to clear them out, tidy them up, and focus on what's really important. Quizzes and step-by-step guides will help girls feel more in control and confident that they can manage everything they need for school, extracurriculars, and more.

A Smart Girl's Guide: Friendship Troubles

A Smart Girl's Guide: Friendship Troubles

Written by: Patti Kelley Criswell
Illustrated by: Angela Martini
Recommended Age: 9 - 13

As relationships get more complicated — and parents are less involved in the day-to-day activities of their daughters' friendships — girls may need advice for handling struggles with friends. A Smart Girl’s Guide to Friendship Troubles concentrates on disputes between friends, including how to stand up for yourself without being hurtful and what to do if a best friend is more interested in popularity than previous friendships. Not all friendships will stand the test of time, but this book will help Mighty Girls make sure they don't lose a good friend over accidental disagreements.

Girling Up: How to Be Strong, Smart, and Spectacular

Girling Up: How to Be Strong, Smart, and Spectacular

Written by: Mayim Bialik
Recommended Age: 12 and up

Girls growing up in today's world may feel overwhelmed: family, friends, school, changing bodies, changing relationships... what they need is advice on girling up! In this book, Mayim Bialik, star of The Big Bang Theory and neuroscientist, provides a combination of scientific information, anecdotal experience, and supportive encouragement as girls navigate the transition to womanhood. Fun, accessible, and comprehensive, this book will encourage girl to recognize their own power and capability as they girl up.

The Teen Girl's Survival Guide: Ten Tips for Making Friends, Avoiding Drama, and Coping with Social Stress

The Teen Girl's Survival Guide: Ten Tips for Making Friends, Avoiding Drama, and Coping with Social Stress

Written by: Lucie Hemmen PhD
Recommended Age: 13 and up

Strong, supportive friendships can make all the difference in the teen years, and this book will help girls learn how to find the friends that she can lean on! Psychologist Lucie Hemmen offers ten tips grounded in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) to help teen girls find good friends, work through conflicts, and weed out negative social habits. Individual chapters elaborate on key elements of friendship like using communication to nurture friendships and how to be the person you want on social media or while texting. By developing these social skills, Mighty Girls will be ready to find good friends wherever they go — and to help good friends through their own bumps in the road.

Conquer Negative Thinking for Teens

A Workbook to Break the Nine Thought Habits That Are Holding You Back

Conquer Negative Thinking for Teens

A Workbook to Break the Nine Thought Habits That Are Holding You Back

Recommended Age: 13 and up

Negative thinking habits can lead teens to develop a distorted view of themselves and others, leaving them feeling anxious, angry, and sad. Fortunately, it's possible to learn to recognize these habits — whether it's the "I can't" habit, the "zooming-in-on-the-negative" habit, the "mind-reading habit", or any of the other common negative thinking habits — and develop more helpful ways of thinking that can help teens gain perspective, resiliency, and self-confidence. Psychologist Mary Karapetian Alvord and writer Anne McGrath provide sections addressing the emotions and bodily sensations that are commonly associated with each habit. Filled with real-life examples, the guide gives teens a step-by-step action plan on how to take control of their thinking and their lives.

The Perfectionism Workbook for Teens: Activities to Help You Reduce Anxiety and Get Things Done

The Perfectionism Workbook for Teens: Activities to Help You Reduce Anxiety and Get Things Done

Recommended Age: 13 and up

The desire to be perfect can go awry, and when it does, teens can stress themselves out — or delay doing anything at all for fear of a mistake. The truth is that no one is perfect, so learning to be good enough and battle perfectionist thoughts is a key skill for teens to master. In this workbook, you'll learn to identify perfectionism, spot the positive and negative aspects of it, and manage expectations — both others' and your own — so that you can perform at your best while still accepting who you are. With accessible tricks and techniques, this book will boost self-confidence and help teens achieve their goals.

Express Yourself: A Teen Girl's Guide to Speaking Up and Being Who You Are

Express Yourself: A Teen Girl's Guide to Speaking Up and Being Who You Are

Written by: Emily Roberts MA LPC
Recommended Age: 13 and up

Teens are still learning how to handle conflict — particularly when girls feel pressure to be "nice" rather than speak up. If your teen wrestles with how to speak her mind or assert her opinions, this book will help! Author Emily Roberts, a licensed professional counselor, provides tips for building self-esteem and confidence, expressing yourself assertively, and managing your emotions when dealing with "mean girls" and bullies. It's a great way to help the teen in your life find her voice.

The Self-Compassion Workbook for Teens: Mindfulness and Compassion Skills to Overcome Self-Criticism and Embrace Who You Are

The Self-Compassion Workbook for Teens: Mindfulness and Compassion Skills to Overcome Self-Criticism and Embrace Who You Are

Written by: Karen Bluth PhD
Recommended Age: 13 and up

With all of the changes that happen during the teen years, it's easy to become too critical of yourself — but the stress and insecurity of that self-criticism can interfere with your dreams and goals. Fortunately, it's possible to learn to be compassionate to yourself and practice effective self-care! This book uses techniques inspired by Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer’s Mindful Self-Compassion program to help teens manage the emotional ups and downs of life... and reminds themselves that they are enough, just as they are.

Self-Esteem for Teens: Six Principles for Creating the Life You Want

Self-Esteem for Teens: Six Principles for Creating the Life You Want

Written by: Lisa M. Schab LCSW
Recommended Age: 13 and up

Self-esteem affects every part of your life — from making friends to performance at school to interviewing for (and getting) that perfect job — and healthy self-esteem gives you a better chance of achieving your dreams! This guide helps teens learn how to develop a realistic but positive understanding of their capabilities and strengths (while accepting and learning to work with their weakness), as well as how to see mistakes, problems, and obstacles as opportunities and challenges to be overcome, rather than permanent stopping points. By believing her own worth and recognizing her authentic self, your teen will be ready to take on the world. You can also check out How to Like Yourself: A Teen's Guide to Quieting Your Inner Critic and Building Lasting Self-Esteem for more on this topic.

Overcoming Procrastination for Teens: A CBT Guide for College-Bound Students

Overcoming Procrastination for Teens: A CBT Guide for College-Bound Students

Written by: William J. Knaus EdD
Recommended Age: 13 and up

It's easy to say "I'll do that later" but as projects get more complicated — and teens are increasingly responsible for their own work — procrastination can become a big problem. Fortunately, there are techniques you can use to keep yourself organized, tackle the boredom or indifference that slows you down, and ensure that you give yourself enough time to perform your best. This guide teaches cognitive behavioral techniques to get you out of your delaying habit and into getting work done early and well. It's the perfect choice for teens who are looking ahead to taking on the adult world!

The Stress Reduction Workbook for Teens

The Stress Reduction Workbook for Teens

Written by: Gina Biegel MA LMFT
Recommended Age: 13 and up

Teens who find themselves under stress need to start developing skills to manage and reduce it on their own. This workbook offers mindfulness techniques to help teens find life balance and develop relaxation skills. By working through the 36 activities in this book, teens will learn the difference between good and bad stress; identify how stress affects them physically and emotionally; and discover the methods that work best when they need to calm down. The book even includes activities about identifying and dealing with things you can't control and remembering that it's not selfish to practice good self-care. For another book to help teens manage stress, check out The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook for Teens.

The Mindful Teen: Powerful Skills to Help You Handle Stress One Moment at a Time

The Mindful Teen: Powerful Skills to Help You Handle Stress One Moment at a Time

Written by: Dzung X. Vo, MD, FAAP
Recommended Age: 13 and up

With so much activity around her — and so many thoughts swirling in her head — many teen girls struggle to find a peaceful center. Dzung X. Vo, a pediatrician specializing in adolescent medicine, provides a handy guide to using mindfulness-based stress reduction (MBSR) and mindfulness-based cognitive therapy (MBCT) to handle the stressful moments in life and fine calm and happiness even at the most difficult times. By encouraging girls to focus on the moment, rather than worrying about the past or future, and providing guided exercises to settle minds and emotions, Vo helps girls learn techniques that manage their stress, even when the going gets tough.

The Anxiety Workbook for Teens

The Anxiety Workbook for Teens

Written by: Lisa M. Schab LCSW
Recommended Age: 13 and up

For some teens, worries and nerves become a more significant problem, affecting every aspect of their lives. However, learning strategies to manage anxiety early will allow teens to build a toolbox to help them throughout their lives. This book addresses teens dealing with mild to severe anxiety in day-to-day situations, teaching them how to control their anxieties, develop a positive self-image, and most importantly, how to know when they need to seek help. By following these step-by-step workbooks, teens will learn to turn these techniques to their advantage so that they feel ready for whatever life has to throw at them.

The Grit Guide for Teens: A Workbook to Help You Build Perseverance, Self-Control, and a Growth Mindset

The Grit Guide for Teens: A Workbook to Help You Build Perseverance, Self-Control, and a Growth Mindset

Recommended Age: 13 and up

Want to power through the challenges in your life and achieve your goals? Then you need grit! The term "grit" encompasses all the attributes you need to accomplish what you want, from tenacity to self-control to the ability to bounce back from failure. This guide introduces teens to the concepts of grit and growth mindset — focusing on improvement and hard work — and shows them how these ideas can translate into turning disappointment into opportunity, embracing challenges, managing stress, and more. After all, life isn't necessarily about being the best of the best; it's about being the best YOU that you can possibly be!

The Her Campus Guide to College Life: How to Manage Relationships, Stay Safe and Healthy, Handle Stress, and Have the Best Years of Your Life

The Her Campus Guide to College Life: How to Manage Relationships, Stay Safe and Healthy, Handle Stress, and Have the Best Years of Your Life

Teens who are college bound will want to check out this great, empowering guide from the experts behind Her Campus! Full of information that's useful for everyone from freshman to seniors, this book covers everything from building a comfortable relationship with your roommate to staying physically and emotionally healthy to managing your money and planning your academic and career track. Fun checklists and worksheets help Mighty Girls keep track of this book's advice and put it into action. Its accessible and reassuring tone will help Mighty Girls headed to college feel confident and in control, whatever challenge lies before them.

Planning for the Future

Of course, aside from school, Mighty Girls in their tweens and teens have another big challenge: “what do I want to be when I grow up?” is becoming a much less theoretical question! By the time a girl is reaching high school, she’ll need to start selecting courses based on what she hopes to study in future — which is hard when you don’t know what that will be. By giving her some great books about the potential careers that await her, you can help her figure out which of her dreams are the best fit.

In Their Shoes: Extraordinary Women Describe Their Amazing Careers

In Their Shoes: Extraordinary Women Describe Their Amazing Careers

Written by: Deborah Reber
Recommended Age: 12 and up

Planning a career path can seem like an impossible task: how are you supposed to decide when you don't even know what most jobs are like? This book provides "day in the life" profiles to inspire readers, while a wide selection of sidebars, lists, and helpful tips will help girls narrow in on what career is right for them. A selection of diverse women are featured, including Shonda Rhimes, creator and executive producer of Grey's Anatomy; Susan Schulz, editor in chief of CosmoGIRL!; and U.S. Senator Barbara Boxer. One your Mighty Girl has found a career that appeals, this book also provides educational paths and other tips she can use to plan her future.

Firestarters: 100 Job Profiles to Inspire Young Women

Firestarters: 100 Job Profiles to Inspire Young Women

Recommended Age: 13 and up

100 women, including women in a variety of diverse jobs — everything from opera singers to marine biologists, engineers to costume designers, attorneys to chefs — talk about their careers in this fascinating and inspiring book! Each woman discusses what she loves about her job and what she finds challenging; what their educational and work backgrounds are; and what advice they'd have for a Mighty Girl considering their career. The book particularly emphasizes women who blazed their own paths, from creating their own businesses to entering careers where women are rare. It's a great way to show girls just how many options really are out there.

You Got This!: Unleash Your Awesomeness, Find Your Path, and Change The World

You Got This!: Unleash Your Awesomeness, Find Your Path, and Change The World

Written by: Maya S. Penn
Recommended Age: 12 and up

Maya Penn may be the teen creator of multiple successful businesses and presenter of three TEDTalks, but that doesn't mean she doesn't wrestle with the same obstacles that every Mighty Girl faces — including self-doubt, struggles with focus, and worries about how people see her. However, she argues, by harnessing your creativity, passion, and drive, you too can accomplish goals that seem far beyond your reach. In this inspiring book, she provides tips and suggestions that worked for her, as well as a creative blueprint to help turn that little idea into a big success. It's rare that teens get to read these suggestions from a person their own age; this book is a great reminder that you're never too young to make a change.

Indie Girl: From Starting a Band to Launching a Fashion Company, Nine Ways to Turn Your Creative Talent into Reality

Indie Girl: From Starting a Band to Launching a Fashion Company, Nine Ways to Turn Your Creative Talent into Reality

Illustrated by: Michael Wertz
Recommended Age: 12 and up

Of course, what some Mighty Girls dream of is setting their own course: taking their creative talents and turning them into independent business ventures. In Indie Girl, both teen and professional artists talk about the real process behind creative projects like filming a TV show, creating an art exhibit, or building a parade float. The book emphasizes that these projects can be the start of a career — but also that they can be driven purely by passion and a desire to see your dream made real. By the end of this book, your teen will know that women who come together in the arts can produce amazing things!

Be A Changemaker: How To Start Something That Matters

Be A Changemaker: How To Start Something That Matters

Written by: Laurie Ann Thompson
Recommended Age: 12 and up

Some Mighty Girls want to create something that will change the world for the better! If your Mighty Girl has a big dream about starting a charitable organization or socially aware business, this great guide will teach her how to research her idea, how to develop a plan, how to recruit supportive adults to build her team, and more! A wide variety of profiles of other teens who've created organizations that made big change will also help inspire her. Everyone knows girls can change the world; this will help her do it.

Take 5 For Your Dreams

Take 5 For Your Dreams

Recommended Age: 12 and up

While job profiles and career information will help, your Mighty Girl will still have to do a lot of soul-searching as she decides what path she wants to follow in life. This book is a day-by-day guide to taking 5 minutes to reflect and contemplate on your uniqueness, strengths, and dreams for the future. The authors point out that this kind of self-examination shouldn’t wait until adulthood, or girls may find their whole life goes by on automatic pilot. By taking this little bit of time every day, your Mighty Girl can discover what she really wants out of her life.

Get Out Of Your Mind and Into Your Life For Teens

Get Out Of Your Mind and Into Your Life For Teens

Recommended Age: 13 and up

Achieving your dreams can seem even harder when you wrestle with anxiety and self-doubt. In this guide teens will learn to identify their strengths, tackle their doubts using acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), and find ways to use their newfound skills to live the life they want. The emphasis on finding your own strength and learning to turn it to solving problems makes this guide empowering and confidence building. No matter what she's dreaming of, this book will assure your Mighty Girl that she can achieve it.

Your Not-So-Little Girl

The tween and teen years mean a big adjustment for parents as well, as their daughters become more independent — which means a lot of wrestling about how much freedom is enough without being too much. These books for parents will help you figure out the right balance between your old parenting responsibilities and the new parental relationship that is growing between the two of you.

No More Mean Girls
New!

The Secret to Raising Strong, Confident, and Compassionate Girls

No More Mean Girls
New!

The Secret to Raising Strong, Confident, and Compassionate Girls

Written by: Katie Hurley

Many parents think big social stressors first hit girls during the middle school years, only to discover that tough issues like low self-esteem, cyberbullying, and peer pressure are cropping up at younger ages. This invaluable book tackles "mean girl culture" and provides practical advice for parents on how to to teach girls to seek out and build strong, positive friendships; express themselves in a healthy way; and stand up for themselves and for others, empowering young girls to be kind, confident, and resilient leaders who work together and build each other up.

Middle School Makeover: Improving the Way You and Your Child Experience the Middle School Years

Middle School Makeover: Improving the Way You and Your Child Experience the Middle School Years

Written by: Michelle Icard

It's important to remember that parents and educators can still do a lot to help their girls have a positive middle school experience. Michelle Icard lays out how tweens' developing brains affects their relationships, their understanding of their identity, and their decision-making. Then, she lays out practical and concrete ways that the adults in tweens' lives can give them the guidance they need to have a positive middle-school experience. With specific discussions about top issues like social media, social exclusion, and starting romantic relationships, this book is a must-have guide for anyone who works with middle schoolers.

The Drama Years: Real Girls Talk about Surviving Middle School — Bullies, Brands, Body Image, and More

The Drama Years: Real Girls Talk about Surviving Middle School — Bullies, Brands, Body Image, and More

Middle school is a whirlwind for both kids and parents! In this book, anecdotes from real middle-school girls and advice from successful tween and teen mentors provide an insider’s perspective to help parents guide their girls through this difficult transition. While parents can feel powerless, this book reminds them that, while they can’t eliminate the drama of middle school, they can do a lot to downplay it — and to build their daughter’s resiliency.

Enough As She Is
New!

How to Help Girls Move Beyond Impossible Standards of Success to Live Healthy, Happy, and Fulfilling Lives

Enough As She Is
New!

How to Help Girls Move Beyond Impossible Standards of Success to Live Healthy, Happy, and Fulfilling Lives

Written by: Rachel Simmons

Although girls seem to be more "successful" than ever today, outpacing boys in GPA, college enrollment, and more, they're also reporting feeling overwhelmed by the need to be exceptional at everything. This book takes a look below the put-together surface that girls project to the world, and provides practical tips for parents to help them reduce negative thoughts, embrace risk and authenticity, and prioritize feeling confident and happy as the ultimate sign of success. Best-selling parenting author Rachel Simmons relies on in-depth case studies and careful research to create both a portrait of the challenges facing girls today and a road map to help girls create their own paths to happy, healthy lives.

Just Between Us: A No-Stress, No-Rules Journal for Girls and Their Moms

Just Between Us: A No-Stress, No-Rules Journal for Girls and Their Moms

Manufacturer: Chronicle Books
Recommended Age: 8 and up

This bestselling guided journal helps moms and daughters establish fun, thought-provoking ways of communicating with each other, especially as daughters enter the often challenging tween and teen years. Meredith and Sophie Jacobs started sharing a journal when Sophie was nine and now they have applied their experiences to creating this fun resource to help other mother and daughters connect in a new way. With its thoughtful writing prompts and intergenerational advice woven throughout, this journal helps promote discussions about friends, school, crushes, and many of the other joys and difficulties faced growing up. There is also plenty of space provided for drawing, list-writing, and free writing on whatever inspires you.

Dial Down the Drama

Reducing Conflict and Reconnecting with Your Teenage Daughter

Dial Down the Drama

Reducing Conflict and Reconnecting with Your Teenage Daughter

Written by: Colleen O'Grady

Teen girls can feel like they're on an emotional roller coaster — which means what they need most from their parents is stability and calm. Family therapist Colleen O'Grady provides tips and tools so that parents can keep their perspective, hold firm to their principles without escalating conflict, and reconnect with their daughters even when the drama is high. By learning to parent calmly and intentionally, even when her emotions are at their peak, you can be her anchor in the storm — and reclaim the joy in your relationship.

The Care and Keeping of Us: A Sharing Collection for Girls and Their Moms

The Care and Keeping of Us: A Sharing Collection for Girls and Their Moms

Recommended Age: 8 - 12

This unique multiple journal set from the American Girl Library, which publishes best-selling guides for girls like The Care And Keeping Of You, makes it easier for moms and tween daughters to stay close at a time when everything seems to be in turmoil! The 3-book set includes twin books for moms and daughters full of tips, reminders, and conversation prompts covering topics from hygiene and physical development to crushes, friends, and personal style. A sharing journal that moms and daughters can pass back and forth completes the set. This accessible and fun set is sure to keep the two of you talking.

The Myth of the Perfect Girl: Helping Our Daughters Find Authentic Success and Happiness in School and Life

The Myth of the Perfect Girl: Helping Our Daughters Find Authentic Success and Happiness in School and Life

Written by: Ana Homayoun

Sometimes, girls are particularly burdened by the stress of feeling that they need to succeed at everything. Author Ana Homayoun points out that, while a girl may be excelling in many areas of her life from sports to friendships to academics, many of them are stretching themselves thin and striving so hard to please that they lose sight of their own desires. She describes multiple ways that girls can box themselves into identities that please others, and provides tips to help raise girls who are confidence enough to show their authentic selves. This book will give parents the help they need to empower their daughters to create their own definition of success — and happiness.

Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions Into Adulthood

Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions Into Adulthood

Written by: Lisa Damour

If the job of an adolescent is to become an adult, how do you know when they're there? Lisa Damour, director of the Laurel School's Center for Research on Girls, draws on the latest research to reveal the seven key transitions — including Parting with Childhood, Contending with Adult Authority, Entering the Romantic World, and Caring for Herself — that an adolescent girl needs to make before she reaches adulthood. Equally importantly, she shows how uneven progress through these transitions explains the sometimes erratic behavior of teenage girls, and how parents' responses can help strengthen their relationship so she can complete her journey healthy and happy. This excellent new release will help parents of teens understand exactly what makes them tick.

What Do You Expect? She’s A Teenager!: A Hope and Happiness Guide for Moms with Daughters Aged 11 - 19

What Do You Expect? She’s A Teenager!: A Hope and Happiness Guide for Moms with Daughters Aged 11 - 19

Parents still have a very special place in their daughters’ lives — despite the doom and gloom many parents hear! Arden Greenspan-Goldberg tackles hot-button issues that cause conflict — from sex, drugs, and eating disorders to conflicts over wanting piercings or tattoos — and helps moms understand how their own actions can help change the dynamic. While it’s impossible to eliminate conflict, this book will help moms take a step back and cultivate a less volatile and more communicative relationship with their daughters. A final chapter includes recommendations on choosing a therapist if you and your Mighty Girl decide you need some outside help.

Kindness Wins: A Simple, No-Nonsense Guide to Teaching Our Kids How to Be Kind Online

Kindness Wins: A Simple, No-Nonsense Guide to Teaching Our Kids How to Be Kind Online

Written by: Galit Breen

Parents have a major role to play in teaching their children to be kind, compassionate people, especially in an online culture that is often neither. Galit Breen, who has experienced online vitriol first-hand, provides an in-depth look at several social media tools — such as likes, shares, and comments — and how they can be used to support and encourage, how they can be turned into subtle putdowns, and how they can become outright abusive and hurtful. The conversational style and discussion starters are sure to be appreciated by parents, and the book even includes two Kindness Wins contracts: one to share with peers and one to share with kids. It's a great way to teach kids how to be responsible digital citizens.

Mothering and Daughtering: Keeping Your Bond Strong Through the Teen Years

Mothering and Daughtering: Keeping Your Bond Strong Through the Teen Years

Recommended Age: 12 and up

Many mothers assume that their relationship with their daughters will become strained in the teenage years — but what if mothers and daughters work together to make the teen years a time of closeness? This book offers two breakthrough guides in one: one for mothers, teaching them how to create a safe space for their daughters as they move into adulthood; and one for daughters, encouraging them to consider their mother their closest ally as they test out their independence. This insightful guide treats the mother/daughter relationship as a developing partnership, as a daughter moves from a dependent tween to a confident young adult setting out on her own.

American Girls: Social Media and the Secret Lives of Teenagers

American Girls: Social Media and the Secret Lives of Teenagers

Written by: Nancy Jo Sales

For today's teen girls, coming of age online means constant exposure to hypersexualized imagery, the need to cope with instantaneous judgment from their peers, relentless pressure to maintain an idealized online self, and even a failure to develop critical in-person communications skills. In an social media environment that is changing constantly and largely foreign to parents who often have little experience with the apps favored by teens, this thoroughly researched new book provides a much needed road map to the teens' social media use. And, by better understanding what today’s teens are going through, the adults in their lives can provide them with the tools they need to better manage social media and grow to be confident young women — both on and offline.

The New Puberty: How To Navigate Early Development In Today's Girls

The New Puberty: How To Navigate Early Development In Today's Girls

Recommended Age: Adults

If your tween is an early developer, things can be even more complicated — it's tough to adjust to middle school when you're 10 but look 14. Dr. Louise Greenspan, a physician, and Dr. Julianna Deardorff, a psychologist, teach parents, teachers, and coaches why early puberty may be more common and how they can help guide younger girls through the experience of physical maturation, while still letting them be kids. Practical suggestions about how to discuss issues in an age-appropriate way will make Mighty Girls — and the adults around them — feel more confident through this big change. With appropriate guidance, even girls who are early bloomers can navigate these turbulent waters.

Letting Go: A Parent’s Guide to Understanding the College Years

Letting Go: A Parent’s Guide to Understanding the College Years

The transition to college is difficult for parents as well: most parents still feel that they should have a prominent place in their college-aged child’s life, but struggle with how to do it while still allowing the natural independence and self-reliance their new adult needs. In this book, which is recommended by colleges across the country, parents will learn what emotions are normal — for both themselves and their children — as well as when to allow independence and when to intervene. Although this guide has been around for over a decade, the latest edition has been updated to cover the safety, health, and wellness concerns that apply to incoming college students, including additional considerations about fostering independence in a world of constant, instant communication.

Don’t Tell Me What To Do, Just Send Money

Don’t Tell Me What To Do, Just Send Money

As the title of this book points out, parents who are still providing emotional — and financial — support may find it particularly hard to think of their children as evolving adults. Helen E. Johnson and Christine Schelhas-Miller teach parents how to lay the groundwork for the new relationship that is developing between themselves and their college student. This new edition also addresses the challenges that increasing connectivity — provided by cell phones and easy internet access — provides for natural emotional and academic development, since both parents and children may find it more difficult to establish the boundaries necessary for college students to thrive. This book is full of down-to-earth (and often humorous) anecdotes that will help you and your teen figure out how to make the change to a new, adult relationship.

There are great things on the horizon for your Mighty Girl, whether she’s a tween or a teen, starting middle school or starting college. With these books in hand, she’ll feel ready to tackle them all!

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