"He doesn't mean to hurt me — he just loses control." "He can be sweet and gentle." "He's scared me a few times, but he never hurts the children — he's a great father." "He's had a really hard life..."
Women in abusive relationships tell themselves these things every day. Now they can see inside the minds of angry and controlling men — and change their own lives. In this groundbreaking book, Lundy Bancroft, a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men, uses his thirty years of experience to help women recognize when they are being controlled or devalued, and to find ways to get free of an abusive relationship.
Among the important topics addressed are the early warning signs of abuse, the nature of abusive thinking, myths about abusers, ten abusive personality types, the role of drugs and alcohol, what can be fixed and what can't, and how to leave an abusive relationship safely.
"This fascinating investigation into what makes abusive men tick is alarming, but its candid handling of a difficult subject makes it a valuable resource for professionals and victims alike. Bancroft, the former codirector of Emerge, the nation's first program for abusive men, has specialized in domestic violence for 15 years, and his understanding of his subject and audience is apparent on every page." -- Publishers Weekly
|Recommended Age||16 and up|
|Publication Date||Sep 2, 2003|